Sunday, August 26, 2012

I Don't Want to Leave

Recently, I think we are reverting to a stage I do not wish to repeat.  If you have young children, you might remember the stage where they would cry every time you left the park or a friend's house or any place they were really enjoying themselves.  We went through that phase and now, unfortunately, I think we are back there.  In the past week or so every time we have left a park, pool, or friends house Lilly has had a melt down.  The crying goes on forever and it is a tired cry.  I thought maybe she wasn't getting enough sleep, but she is getting 10+ hours a night so I don't know.  It is frustrating for me to see her so distraught over leaving some place especially when she was having so much fun and now I am the cause of her sadness.  My mom suggests I don't  make a big deal of it, so I guess I will do that...reminding myself that "This to shall pass." 

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  1. Yes... this too shall pass... it is important to show that we do care about their feelings but also to find the balance when we show them they can't manipulate us and/or run our lives... I am not saying she is doing this... I just think that in the age of our girls they are learning new things and even learn our reactions to the things we do... sometimes, without malice, they act a certain way to get their way... when I know something is for her good, I still do it even if she cries... and then she thanks me because she ended up having as much fun as I knew she would ... I have this problem again because all summer, well, you know, we didn't have Bible Study and/or Awana, so leaving her in church again in the middle of the week (for pre-Bible Study meetings, etc.) was very hard and she would cry like she was being punished and sometimes I felt horrible because she would even act like she was afraid of her teacher... I've been talking with her ... wondering what's going on but it seems she just learned that's what makes me stop from doing things I need to do... I realized nothing is going on due to other random conversations I've had with her... she even says "Mommy I love playing or I love my teacher" and I know she is ok... she just knows how to get to me... -sigh- hopefully she'll get used to our "normal routine" again... and not cry as much... hopefully same thing for Lilly.

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