Love Language

Ever heard of the Love Language books by Gary Chapman?  I have read bits and pieces of them over the years and my husband and I have both taken the quizzes to determine our top love languages.  Well, recently I came across a copy of The five Love Languages of Children which I had bought several years ago but never read.  I decided to orally give my daughter the assessment in the back of the book just to see what her love languages might be.  Here are two of the questions (the child has to pick which one they'd rather somebody say to them):
Give me a hug! or You are terrific!
I've got a special birthday present for you! or I'll help you with your project.

There are 20 questions like this and after every 5 or so, Lilly would say, "I'm picking the fun one aren't I?"  :)

Well, after all the questions were answered, I tallied up the scores and figured out that her love languages ranked in this order:
1) Gifts (what 4 year old doesn't like to get gifts)
2) Quality time
3) Words of Affirmation
4) Acts of service
5) Physical touch

I wasn't really surprised by the results of this assessment, but it has helped me to be more aware of how I show love to my precious daughter.  For example, we went on a walk the other day (with our new puppy) and she had done such a great job of staying with me and not complaining that I decided to tell her.  I said, "You are doing such a great job at staying with Mommy and helping me with Lucy, thank you!"  You would not believe the smile on her face and then she kept saying, "I'm doing such a good job at obeying you and listening, aren't I?"  or "God wants us to obey our parents and I'm obeying you, Mommy, and you are one of my parents, right?"  "Will you tell Daddy how good I did on the walk, Mommy, that I didn't complain and that I listened to you?"  She was loving the praise I gave her and you could tell.  Note to self - continue to give her this positive praise so that she knows how much I love her.